MUSINGS. On ways of being, and how we relate.
Existential theory in its original conceit in dense, extensive, and open to interpretation; simply put, it concerns itself with our ways of being, and the way in which we respond to the conditions of our lives. Central to theory are fundamental themes such as Agency, Death...
I am content to be an instrument, and am led by an integrity of purpose. I offer sophisticated insight and my intention as an Existential Coach to Creative Men is to encourage more artful being and deliver exponential value. An attitude of willingness, an inclination for possibility and...
I am here, in Ocho Rios. I have not known a more savage and compulsive beauty; Jamaica, how you have won my heart. Kant wrote much on the relativity of perspective to beauty, and he was not wrong. The majesty and potency of Mother Nature invites humility. I feel a radical aliveness...
Some of my most brilliant ideas are realised when drifting. A certain quality of such activity, allows for all manner of topical channellings; sometimes creative, at times divine, yet always generative. My favourite are seaside wanderings, sound-tracked by Wagner. My favourite...
Coaching differs from more traditional counselling therapy practises in a number of ways. I describe the experience of coaching as somewhere between a therapy session and a chat with a good and wise friend.
It strikes me that much is outdated in terms of thought, and belief systems, and what we must develop is New Philosophy. Philosophy is a continuous line of enquiry, as with life it is a process, ongoing and without...
In an instance or phase of emotional decline, it is hard to recall the recovery strategy we have learned to counter it, given we are distracted with our attention elsewhere. We simply must apply the resource of knowledge we have accumulated, in the critical moment. It’s well worth...
A strong sense of self is paramount in such an age of fluidity and the virtual. Identity can so often be constructed around that which is external, and this can be a significant challenge once any outer falls away, and we can be left feeling all at sea. It’s a natural inclination that...
Making choices is not easy. We are free, but we simply must choose in order for life to advance, new realities to manifest and alternatives to be explored. We experience scales of choice, in terms of gravitas or importance; minor to major, or simple to complex. A ‘minor’ choice might...
Sometimes it comes like a juggernaught of shit, or a cascading avalanche and at other times a more nuanced shift in landscapes; there’s no two ways about it, any version of depression or anxiety are a bitch. And, the best strategy I find is good management. To know oneself...
If Luck is the derivative of Chance, then Chance is the derivative of…what? What or who governs Chance? Perhaps, it is the trinity of Fates who are the determinates of one’s fortune or poverty…
The roses are just delightful today, morning-glorious. There is something abundant, entire, and real about them, so unapologetic in their beauty. Uncomplicated and resplendent, I adore you. It is important to plant my face into any given rose passed, to be grounded and know that...
Neither self-regulation nor the art of boundary-making are easy to master, but in practising such approaches one arrives at a greater sense of satisfaction and the reward of achievement, both of which are fairly essential for a sense of wellbeing and purpose...
More than ever before, our post-modern lives are characterised by the need for a deeper, more fundamental understanding of ourselves, and the eco-systems that we inhabit. In addition there’s a need for an integration of all our human facets; cerebral, bodily, spiritual, so as to...
There is a quiet and incalculable crisis, a mass existential malcontent, a hopelessness that is palpable. This disaster has been amplified by the avalanche of despair bought about Brexit, and Trump, and with living and working conditions being unacceptable, nonviable and in no way...
R.D.Laing cites Kafka in The Divided Self ‘You can hold yourself back from the sufferings of the world, that is something you are free to do and it accords with your nature, but perhaps this very holding back is the one suffering you could avoid’.